Friday thoughts . . .
Notes from books I’m reading on SUCCESS
SUCCESS & The Law of Connection
- Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand.
- Great Leaders and Communicators connect with their reps.
- Bad communicators - talk down. Good communication – means common ground, get onto common ground.
- In 55 minutes ask 93 questions
Speak with passion, ask lots of questions security, friend.
- You can’t move people to action before you connect with their heart.
9 ways to connect:
1- Connect with yourself FIRST. Be real
2- Share with openers and sincerity. Let them be openers so they will approach you.
3- Live your message
4- Know your audience. Know something about them.
5- Talk at their level. Look them in the eye.
6- Give yourself totally to the people and the message
7- Believe totally in the message and the people
8- Share how the message has touched you. They get you to take the trip with you. They are together with you. Offer direction and hope.
9- Always give them light at the end of the tunnel. Leaders are dealers in hope.
How well do I connect in Speaking:
Law of Solid Ground:
Trust: Foundation that hold the leader and the people together. It is what you build your leadership on.
Need character and needs confidence to build.
It’s not the biggest problem that causes you the problem, it is the last one.
Give back changes – give back less and slower. When you violate a trust relationship you loose it a lot quicker than you gained it.
After a while if doing it well, you are loaded with change.
Business people know their #’s
1. Keep track
2. Begin with the end in mind
3. Beginning must be just as big as your end. Otherwise you will think in such a way as will create limits.
4. Not about money- It’s about what your life can become.
5. The course is about big steps and the possibilities of your life. Until you can see the possible and plan for it then the possible for you is impossible.
“If I have seen farther than others it is because I have been standing on the shoulders of giants.” Issac Newton
When you think big you think narrow.
- Boredom of systematic consistency to reach highest heights. If you stay there long enough to success its not boring.
- Discipline to get to wealth, most take flexibility and freedom
- Act broadly as if you were climbing Mt. Everest.
- The size of your questions will determine the size of the answer.
- What will it take for me to climb to the highest point?
- Journey was astounding and you went further.
- Ramp it up!
Be on a course cause by circumstances, which you would have wished to have happened on purpose.
#1 in 1 year paid everything off!!!
Jump high, build big models, jump high and then get pulled along.
Don’t complicate it.
Success is not complicated, but most people get bored with the simplicity.
It’s an “I can conversation” every moment of everyday.
Here’s to our Best Week ever! Make a difference . . .
Deb
Monday, August 24, 2009
Friday, August 14, 2009
Friday Thoughts for August 14,2009
Secret to Success from the
“THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING”
Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve. Dream great dreams and make them come true. Do it now. You are unique. Never affirm self-limitations. What you believe yourself to be, you are. To accomplish great things, you must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost – put foundations under them. Yes you can. You can always better your best. You don’t know that you can do until you do it. Nothing will come of nothing. If you don’t go out on a limb, you’re never going to get the fruit. There is no failure except in not doing anything. Hazy goals produce hazy results. Clearly define your goals. Write them down, make a plan for achieving them, set a deadline, visualize the results and go after them. Just don’t look back unless you want to go that way. Defeat may test you; it need not stop you. If at first you don’t succeed, do it another way. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. The greatest mistake is giving up. Wishing will not bring success, but planning, persistence and a burning desire will. Success is an attitude. Get yours right. It is astonishing how short a time it takes for very wonderful things to happen. Have a passion for positive thinking and there will be no room for the negative.
IMPACT YOURSELF!
Debbie
“THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING”
Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve. Dream great dreams and make them come true. Do it now. You are unique. Never affirm self-limitations. What you believe yourself to be, you are. To accomplish great things, you must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost – put foundations under them. Yes you can. You can always better your best. You don’t know that you can do until you do it. Nothing will come of nothing. If you don’t go out on a limb, you’re never going to get the fruit. There is no failure except in not doing anything. Hazy goals produce hazy results. Clearly define your goals. Write them down, make a plan for achieving them, set a deadline, visualize the results and go after them. Just don’t look back unless you want to go that way. Defeat may test you; it need not stop you. If at first you don’t succeed, do it another way. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. The greatest mistake is giving up. Wishing will not bring success, but planning, persistence and a burning desire will. Success is an attitude. Get yours right. It is astonishing how short a time it takes for very wonderful things to happen. Have a passion for positive thinking and there will be no room for the negative.
IMPACT YOURSELF!
Debbie
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Friday Thoughts August 7, 2009
Friday thoughts . .
Laughter – Our Subconscious Giveaway to our Mind Set
This week I thought about how much better I feel after laughing. I’ve heard that laughter heals the body from many ills including the damage of stress. I love to hear the infectious laughter of my youngest granddaughter, who seems to find everything to do with adult behavior quite funny. She sees humor in everything, including discipline.
Did you know that young children probably laugh the most? We first begin to laugh somewhere between 3.5 to 4 months of age, long before we’re able to speak. At ages 5 and 6, we tend to see the most exuberant laughs. Adults laugh less than children, probably because they play less. Laughter is associated with play. Thinking “playful” creates more opportunity for laughter. Researchers seem to agree - We don’t decide to laugh at these moments. Our brain makes the decision for us. These curious outbreaks of laughter are bits of social glue that bond relationships. Curiously, laughter seldom interrupts the sentence structure of speech. It punctuates speech. We only laugh during pauses when we would cough or breathe. I know from hearing my granddaughter laugh that laughter is social and contagious. I laugh at the sound of her laughter. That’s why the Tickle Me Elmo doll is such a success — it makes us laugh and smile. It is also why you find yourself smiling when you think of someone who does things on a regular basis that makes you laugh.
It’s obvious that humor is important to our everyday lives. It has been shown to help career advancement, speed up the healing process, reduce the risk of depression and heart disease and improve general coping skills. Humor helps us to deal with stressful or tense situations and gives us back some perspective to allow us to tackle the problems head on and get them all sorted out.
Contrary to folk wisdom, most laughter is not about humor; it is about relationships between people and other people, or people and their environment, or it might be about the relationship that a person has with themselves.
Andy Andrews www.andyandrews.com in his audio titled, “Baseball, Boys and Bad Words”, recognized that laughter traditionally requires a target. Picking on the weaker and fragile people around you isn’t going to be funny; in fact it could be devastatingly not funny. Your target either has to be a big strong, self assured person who may even throw the first humor assault at you or the target is yourself. He pokes fun at the adults in his life from the view point of a 10 yr old. He creates pictures in your mind – I get drawn into his stories. If you have not heard this story I’d be happy to play it for you. It brought tears to my eyes the first time I heard it.
Who creates more laughter in others – our right brained thinkers (creative, random, feely types) or our left brained (logical, analytical types)? I’d lay money on the people who look at life from different angles would find more ways to create pictures that are outside the box. Want to do an easy test to see if you are more right brained or left brained focused? Check this out:
http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,22535838-5012895,00.html
I wonder if someone can be commanded to laugh? I can hear the teacher now, “On the count of 5, Red Group, commence laughing” I don’t think so based on the research that I did. Laughter comes from your subconscious and happens without thought.
Want to know the two main reasons we laugh?
#1 Tension and Release. Someone provokes us an emotional tension and then he releases us. This sudden release of tension provokes laughter. Laugher is activated like a steam gauge, where a buildup of feelings prompts an outburst. It's nature's way of releasing tension this buildup of emotions,
From a recent email I received:
I was in the pub yesterday when I suddenly realized I desperately needed to fart. The music was really, really loud, so I timed my farts with the beat.
After a couple of songs, I started to feel better. I finished my pint and noticed that everybody was staring at me.
Then I suddenly remembered that I was listening to my iPod.
#2 Perceived Incongruity. When you are surprised about something that normally should not exist, it will provoke laughter.
Ie. "Flying is simple. You just throw yourself at the ground and miss."
- Douglas Adams
What’s your mindset? What makes you laugh?
Have a great week!
Deb
PS Our company sales rocked in July! We helped more clients buy or sell homes in July than we have in any other July for the past 7 years! Congratulations! RE/MAX sells more homes than any other Real Estate Company in the World.
Laughter – Our Subconscious Giveaway to our Mind Set
This week I thought about how much better I feel after laughing. I’ve heard that laughter heals the body from many ills including the damage of stress. I love to hear the infectious laughter of my youngest granddaughter, who seems to find everything to do with adult behavior quite funny. She sees humor in everything, including discipline.
Did you know that young children probably laugh the most? We first begin to laugh somewhere between 3.5 to 4 months of age, long before we’re able to speak. At ages 5 and 6, we tend to see the most exuberant laughs. Adults laugh less than children, probably because they play less. Laughter is associated with play. Thinking “playful” creates more opportunity for laughter. Researchers seem to agree - We don’t decide to laugh at these moments. Our brain makes the decision for us. These curious outbreaks of laughter are bits of social glue that bond relationships. Curiously, laughter seldom interrupts the sentence structure of speech. It punctuates speech. We only laugh during pauses when we would cough or breathe. I know from hearing my granddaughter laugh that laughter is social and contagious. I laugh at the sound of her laughter. That’s why the Tickle Me Elmo doll is such a success — it makes us laugh and smile. It is also why you find yourself smiling when you think of someone who does things on a regular basis that makes you laugh.
It’s obvious that humor is important to our everyday lives. It has been shown to help career advancement, speed up the healing process, reduce the risk of depression and heart disease and improve general coping skills. Humor helps us to deal with stressful or tense situations and gives us back some perspective to allow us to tackle the problems head on and get them all sorted out.
Contrary to folk wisdom, most laughter is not about humor; it is about relationships between people and other people, or people and their environment, or it might be about the relationship that a person has with themselves.
Andy Andrews www.andyandrews.com in his audio titled, “Baseball, Boys and Bad Words”, recognized that laughter traditionally requires a target. Picking on the weaker and fragile people around you isn’t going to be funny; in fact it could be devastatingly not funny. Your target either has to be a big strong, self assured person who may even throw the first humor assault at you or the target is yourself. He pokes fun at the adults in his life from the view point of a 10 yr old. He creates pictures in your mind – I get drawn into his stories. If you have not heard this story I’d be happy to play it for you. It brought tears to my eyes the first time I heard it.
Who creates more laughter in others – our right brained thinkers (creative, random, feely types) or our left brained (logical, analytical types)? I’d lay money on the people who look at life from different angles would find more ways to create pictures that are outside the box. Want to do an easy test to see if you are more right brained or left brained focused? Check this out:
http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,22535838-5012895,00.html
I wonder if someone can be commanded to laugh? I can hear the teacher now, “On the count of 5, Red Group, commence laughing” I don’t think so based on the research that I did. Laughter comes from your subconscious and happens without thought.
Want to know the two main reasons we laugh?
#1 Tension and Release. Someone provokes us an emotional tension and then he releases us. This sudden release of tension provokes laughter. Laugher is activated like a steam gauge, where a buildup of feelings prompts an outburst. It's nature's way of releasing tension this buildup of emotions,
From a recent email I received:
I was in the pub yesterday when I suddenly realized I desperately needed to fart. The music was really, really loud, so I timed my farts with the beat.
After a couple of songs, I started to feel better. I finished my pint and noticed that everybody was staring at me.
Then I suddenly remembered that I was listening to my iPod.
#2 Perceived Incongruity. When you are surprised about something that normally should not exist, it will provoke laughter.
Ie. "Flying is simple. You just throw yourself at the ground and miss."
- Douglas Adams
What’s your mindset? What makes you laugh?
Have a great week!
Deb
PS Our company sales rocked in July! We helped more clients buy or sell homes in July than we have in any other July for the past 7 years! Congratulations! RE/MAX sells more homes than any other Real Estate Company in the World.
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